How to Let Go of Attachment to an Outcome
We get so attached to outcomes!
How we think life should be, hitting that deadline, getting that new role or promotion, exchanging on a house, it has to be on that date, it has to be perfect!
The stress and pressure we put on ourselves is unnecessary, so why do we do it?
What are the drivers?
Your perception of what someone else will think
The necessity to stay in control
The need for validation
Fear - of losing a job, a house, someone, security
Having to face uncertainty - the Unknown
When you let an outcome determine your level of worthiness, satisfaction or validation, you are giving up control of your own happiness.
So how do you let go? Loosen your grip on attachment?
Ask yourself…
Is this me putting pressure on myself? (my imagined deadline that i’m inflicting on me)
What’s the worst that can happen?
Can I control how they react?
Am I congratulating myself or critiscing myself?
Try to come into situations with a sense of curiosity. Instead of a definitive course of action, reframe it as ‘I’m aiming for this, but I’m curious to see what will happen here if I don’t .
All else fails let go! Get uncomfortable!
If you need help letting go of attachment, the need to be perfect, the need to let go of control and instigate change through developing positive psychology and inner belief, contact me.